Part Two: The journey of finding my husband’s biological father

By Keisa Stewart-Rucker

Meeting The Family

“The delay in releasing part two of the story was not intentional. I wanted to ensure that I approached this sensitive topic with the utmost care and accuracy, as delving into such matters can evoke strong emotions and opinions from different individuals.

Throughout the writing process, it became apparent that some people felt uneasy or even offended by certain aspects of the story. I want to assure you that my intention was never to cause discomfort or offend anyone; rather, my aim was to provide a comprehensive and balanced account, shedding light on the challenges faced by my husband and Pauline.”

DNA Questioned

AncestryDNA® offers an opt-in feature called DNA matching that identifies and establishes biological relationships between individuals who have taken the test. By analyzing shared segments of DNA, the test can accurately determine genetic relatedness at the 3rd or 4th cousin level and closer. AncestryDNA® employs algorithms and filters to ensure accurate matches and rule out unrelated individuals with coincidental DNA similarities. This feature enhances family tree research and helps users discover biologically connected family members.

“Alrighty, let’s delve deeper into this mind-boggling saga. Den’s Mom is certain about who Den’s Father is, and guess what? The DNA backs her up. Plus, we can’t ignore the astonishing resemblance between Den and Charles. So, why would anyone believe the DNA test when it concerns Den but suddenly start doubting it when it comes to Pauline?”

“Our oldest son Jeremiah also underwent a DNA test, which revealed his connection as Pauline’s nephew. The connections are undoubtedly present. We must not allow the mistakes of the past to bring embarrassment upon us and unfairly affect those entangled in this complex situation.

Now, let’s shift our focus to Charles. He seems to be performing a dance of avoidance, hesitating to confront Den or even acknowledge Pauline as his own flesh and blood. Such behavior speaks volumes about his character, in my opinion. Credit goes to JD and Ruth Rucker for raising a remarkable man. It’s truly disheartening that Charles may never fully realize the exceptional son he has.”

Left: Den Right: Charles

“Life can truly resemble a rollercoaster, throwing us curveballs, unveiling unexpected connections, and presenting us with mind-boggling mysteries. However, it’s our responsibility to confront the truth, address our past, and never underestimate the power of empathy and kindness. We mustn’t let the mistakes of previous generations define the lives of those who had no say in the matter.

Let’s also remember that life’s path isn’t always linear. Just when we think we have it all figured out, it takes unforeseen twists and delivers surprises. Our only option is to embrace the uncertainty, draw lessons from the challenges, and keep moving forward.

One vital lesson to grasp is that our actions hold the potential for far-reaching consequences, affecting not only ourselves but also those in our orbit, often in ways we can’t foresee.

In this context, apologies take on a significant role. When we acknowledge the impact of our actions on someone else’s life, recognizing any pain or hurt we may have caused, offering an apology becomes the essential first step toward healing and reconciliation.”

“In the case of Den and Pauline, their experiences serve as poignant reminders of the intricate nature of familial relationships. Den, fortunate to have been raised in a loving environment, may still grapple with feelings of abandonment by his parents. On the other hand, Pauline, who did not have the same love and support, may carry deeper wounds stemming from abandonment and rejection.

Empathy is key when considering the challenges faced by both Den and Pauline. We must strive to comprehend their unique struggles. Den’s emotions are valid, given his personal history, and Pauline’s hardships should neither be dismissed nor diminished. By nurturing compassion and empathy, we create an environment where all voices can be heard and validated.

Navigating the complexities of human relationships can be daunting, but it is through understanding, acknowledgment, and open communication that we can begin to heal the wounds of the past and construct a brighter future for ourselves and those around us.

Always bear in mind that life’s journey is replete with twists and turns. Yet, with an open heart and a willingness to learn, every experience can become a valuable lesson along the way.”

Our Trip To Detroit

Last year we decided to take a trip to meet the family members that were eager and excited to meet Den. Some of the family members even reached out before our trip. What was crazy is some family members told us that they knew about Den! Den received a phone call one night before our trip and he was asked if he wanted to know anything about his father and he said, “hell no if Charles wants me to know anything about him, he will tell me himself” and that topic quickly dropped.

Den meeting his Aunt Mary for the first time

I was taken aback by the sheer audacity that some family members had, as they had the nerve to inform Den that they were well aware of his existence all along yet chose to keep it a closely guarded secret! It is astonishing to think that such a fundamental truth about one’s own identity could be deliberately concealed by those who we call family.

Den and his Uncle Sam

Family Secrets

Family secrets can be like a tangled web, intricately weaved with lies and half-truths. In this case, Charles and his family seemed to have mastered the art of secrecy. They held onto this secret, keeping Den’s existence in the dark for years.

Den with his Uncle’s Mark (left) and John (right)

The repercussions of hidden secrets can be far-reaching and deeply damaging. Pauline, for instance, is a prime example of someone who has endured the most pain of such hidden secrets. The weight of unspoken truths and kept confidences can be unbearable and can inflict unimaginable pain on those involved.

But perhaps there is more to the story than meets the eye. Sometimes family members keep secrets not out of malice, but out of embarrassment or a misguided sense of protection or fear of the consequences that the revelation might bring. It is essential to approach such situations with empathy and understanding, as unraveling the layers of hidden truths can be a delicate and emotional process for everyone involved.


Let’s dive deeper into the topic of incest within certain families. Incest, although widely condemned by society, is an unfortunate reality that exists. However, it is important to note that cases of incestuous relationships often remain hidden and secretive within families, kept away from the prying eyes of the world.

The revelation that someone’s father or brother has had a child with their half-sister can be shocking and unsettling. It challenges the traditional norms and boundaries of family relationships, leaving individuals grappling with complex emotions and moral dilemmas.

Den, Pauline and Keisa

In situations where such suspicions arise, it is crucial for all the siblings involved to undergo DNA testing. This step can provide concrete evidence and clarity, allowing everyone to come face-to-face with the truth, no matter how difficult it may be. DNA testing has become increasingly accessible and can offer undeniable proof of biological relationships, further opening discussions and potentially leading to necessary steps for resolution and healing.

It’s essential to approach this topic with understanding, as the individuals involved may be coping with a range of emotions. The impact of uncovering such family secrets can be profound, potentially altering relationships and challenging the very foundation upon which their familial bonds are based.

Remember, discussing sensitive subjects and having open conversations, and guidance from professional therapists or counselors, and a supportive network can help navigate the challenges that arise when faced with such complicated circumstances.


I’m a firm believer in forgiveness and I do believe that our past mistakes don’t define who we are today. We all make mistakes, and it’s a natural part of being human. However, what sets us apart is our ability to take responsibility for those mistakes, learn from them, and make amends.

In the case of Charles, it’s disheartening to hear that he would willingly walk away from a situation he helped create. It’s important to remember that when we engage in intimate relationships, we have a shared responsibility to face the consequences of our actions, especially when they involve bringing a child into the world.

It takes courage and humility to admit to our mistakes, but it is an essential step towards healing and growth. If Charles is unwilling to acknowledge the gravity of his actions and apologize to those affected, it becomes difficult to move forward and rebuild relationships.

It’s worth noting that even if forgiveness is eventually granted, it doesn’t mean that trust is instantly regained or that the wounds will fully heal. Rebuilding and repairing relationships take time, effort, and open communication.

In life, we all face challenges and make decisions we may later regret. But what matters is how we choose to handle those situations and the steps we take to make amends. It’s crucial to remember that what we do in the dark will eventually come to light, whether through personal growth or external circumstances.

Ultimately, it’s up to Charles to reflect upon his choices, take ownership of his mistakes, and attempt to make things right. Until he addresses the situation and extends a sincere apology to everyone affected by the mess he created, the relationship will never heal.

Healing and forgiveness can only occur when there is remorse, accountability, and an active effort to mend the damage caused. It is my hope that Charles will eventually come to realize the significance of his actions and take the necessary steps towards reconciliation.

Two Sides To A Story

In situations like this, it is essential to consider both sides of the story. It is important to acknowledge that Den’s mother, Dorothy, also played a significant role in Den not knowing his father, and she, too, needs to take responsibility and apologize to Den. It takes two people to conceive a child, and when a man is told that a child isn’t his, it can have profound emotional and psychological effects.

Den’s experience of growing up without his biological father and mother not having the opportunity to live with his parents or siblings is undoubtedly unique, and he has expressed how this has affected him. It is crucial for all parties involved to understand that Den’s relationships with his biological parents will never be the same as his siblings who grew up in a different family dynamic. The feelings of abandonment, confusion, and a sense of not belonging can be deep-rooted and challenging to navigate.

However, healing can occur through open and honest conversations. By allowing Den a safe space to express his emotions and concerns, and by fostering understanding and empathy, relationships can begin to mend. It is essential for all parties involved to approach these discussions with compassion and a willingness to listen and understand each other’s perspectives.

Den with his siblings (two of the siblings are blurred out because we haven’t spoken to them since our trip)
This was such a beautiful moment with Den and his siblings!

Recognizing the impact of past actions is the first step towards reconciliation. Through ongoing communication, patience, and a commitment to rebuilding trust, it is possible for Den, his mother, and his biological father and siblings to work through their past and potentially forge a new understanding and connection. It may not be an easy journey, but with genuine efforts from all sides, it is possible to move towards healing and the restoration of broken familial bonds.

It is crucial to remember that these personal matters are complex and emotionally charged. Each situation is unique, and the individuals involved may have their own feelings, experiences, and challenges to navigate.

Den with his cousins, uncles and his half brother Jamar
Den with his cousin David who also took a DNA test and matched Den’s DNA

I want to express my heartfelt appreciation for the Wright family members who have gone above and beyond to shower Den with an abundance of love and make him feel not just accepted, but truly embraced as a cherished member of their family. However, amidst this outpouring of warmth, there are a few individuals whose kindness and hospitality have stood out in an exceptional way, deserving of a special mention.

Elora on the left and Pauline is in the middle
Den and Jamar
Pauline and Keisa

First and foremost, I would like to extend a heartfelt shout-out to Elora, whose genuine warmth and open-heartedness have created an instant bond with Den and myself. From the very first day, Elora has shown immense kindness, making Den feel right at home among the Wright family. Her constant support has made a lasting impact, and we are truly grateful for her presence in our lives.

Elora, Den and Keisa
Elora and Den
Elora and Keisa

Next, I would like to recognize Ruben, Jamar, and Jamar’s wife Yvette, who have gone out of their way to embrace Den with open arms and make him feel like an integral part of the family. Ruben, in particular, has shown extraordinary generosity by opening his home to us. We were not only welcomed, but also treated to a delightful dinner, surrounded by the love and warmth of the entire family. This gesture of hospitality has left an indelible mark on our hearts, and we cannot express our gratitude enough.

Ruben looking down at his phone
Zack fit right in and started acting like the annoying cousin
Pauline’s daughter and her granddaughters (excluding the waitress standing)
Den and Pauline chatting it up
Left to right: Yvette, Jamar, our middle son Zack, Me, Pauline, Den and our daughter Shemaiah

I would also like to express our appreciation to Aunt Mary and Pauline for their unwavering support and love. Their kindness and genuine care have been a source of reassurance and comfort for Den, making him feel truly accepted and embraced within the family.

It is moments like these that reaffirm the power of familial bonds and remind us of the incredible capacity for love that exists within families. Den and I are filled with deep gratitude for the love, warmth, and acceptance that the Wright family has shown us. Their unwavering support and genuine care have made a profound impact on our lives, and we are truly blessed to have such incredible individuals surrounding us. We look forward to creating many more cherished memories together and forging ever-lasting bonds as we continue this beautiful journey as family.

Me with Den’s great-niece Sincere (Pauline’s granddaughter)
Sincere and Shemaiah (1st cousins)
Shemaiah and Pauline
I made my husband so happy this day!

In the end, the revelation of long-held family secrets can lead to both healing and newfound understanding. It is crucial to navigate these tumultuous waters with care, as the truth has the power to set people free and pave the way for deeper, more authentic connections.

This picture has nothing to do with anything I’m just looking fabulous and unbothered by the people that wanted this story to stay buried

Den’s 50th Birthday Celebration

We surprised Den by sneaking Jamar and Yvette to Atlanta to celebrate Den’s 50th birthday! Thank you Jamar and Yvette. Here are a few photos from that night.

Keisa and Jamar
Keisa and Yvette

Kirk Franklin recently found his biological father at 53 years old! This is the type of reunion that I was hoping for my husband.