Are We Living In A Sex Crazed World?

15 Year Old Girl Has Sex With Multiple Boys In School Restroom

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Police are investigating a disturbing incident that happened in the bathroom of South Fort Myers High School in Lee County, Florida.

According to a police report, one female student had sex with multiple male students after school hours on Tuesday.

Their principal, Melissa Layner, learned about the alleged activity on Wednesday morning and reported the incident to police.
The police report alleges that about 25 males were seen entering the bathroom after school, and that the girl “confirmed that she had sex with a number of willing males.” It is unclear how many of them actually had contact with the 15-year-old girl. Reference: (http://www.people.com/article/south-fort-myers-student-has-sex-with-multiple-partners-in-school-bathroom)

I’ve heard several celebrities say that they aren’t roll models but I beg to differ. Once you become a celebrity you are automatically labeled as a role model whether you want to be are not. Especially today since we live in the era of social media and celebrities are freely letting fans into their daily lives. We live in an era where women are sharing sex videos online at the touch of their cell phones, where strippers make their jobs look like a career, and showing your nakedness gets you a million likes. This story of the girl having sex with multiple boys just makes my disapproval of celebrities like Amber Rose and Kim Kardashian even stronger.

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Amber Rose slut shaming campaign is the stupidest s*** I’ve ever heard of and it leads to teenage girls doing ignorant things just like this girl has done. What’s really sad is she isn’t the first and she definitely isn’t going to be the last.

 

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When I was in the salon I had a lot of school administrators as clients and the stories that they shared with me of how girls as young as 6th graders were caught in sexual acts with boys at school and a lot of times they were caught having sex with multiple boys. Amber Rose is telling young girls that it is okay to have sex with as many people that they want to and they shouldn’t be ashamed of being called a slut.

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She’s also telling the future women of tomorrow that they can dress half naked if they want to, and this is true but the disrespect that comes with that can lead to bullying and name calling which leads to emotional problems in teenage girls. What ever happened to teaching young women to leave something for the imagination?

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Now VH1 is giving her a platform to spread the word about her slut shaming campaign…..smh. It’s not okay for a man or a woman to sleep around with multiple people especially with sexual transmitted diseases on the rise like they are. Amber Rose calls herself a certified slut….wth?

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Also no matter how we say men can sleep around but no one says anything, well the thing is they are men! It has been researched that men think about sex more than women and that is why they have sex with multiple women. Also women have always been morally smarter than men. Read this article below….

Birds do it, bees do it, and men do it any old time. But women will only do it if the candles are scented just right — and their partner has done the dishes first. A stereotype, sure, but is it true? Do men really have stronger sex drives than women?

Well, yes, they do. Study after study shows that men’s sex drives are not only stronger than women’s, but much more straightforward. The sources of women’s libidos, by contrast, are much harder to pin down.

It’s common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well.

“Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context,” says Edward O. Laumann, PhD. He is a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and lead author of a major survey of sexual practices, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States.

Here are seven patterns of men’s and women’s sex drives that researchers have found. Bear in mind that people may vary from these norms.

Men think more about sex.

The majority of adult men under 60 think about sex at least once a day, reports Laumann. Only about one-quarter of women say they think about it that frequently. As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often.

In a survey of studies comparing male and female sex drives, Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist at Florida State University, found that men reported more spontaneous sexual arousal and had more frequent and varied fantasies.

2. Men seek sex more avidly.

“Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it,” Baumeister concludes after reviewing several surveys of men and women. This isn’t just true of heterosexuals, he says; gay men also have sex more often than lesbians at all stages of the relationship. Men also say they want more sex partners in their lifetime, and are more interested in casual sex.

Men are more likely to seek sex even when it’s frowned upon or even outlawed:

  • About two-thirds say they masturbate, even though about half also say they feel guilty about it, Laumann says. By contrast, about 40% of women say they masturbate, and the frequency of masturbation is smaller among women.
  • Prostitution is still mostly a phenomenon of men seeking sex with women, rather than the other way around.

Nuns do a better job of fulfilling their vows of chastity than priests. Baumeister cites a survey of several hundred clergy in which 62% of priests admitted to sexual activity, compared to 49% of nuns. The men reported more partners on average than the women. Read more here: http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare?page=2

No matter how much they preach about having the right to dress like a slut there will always be sick perverted ass men who are rapist in the world and women walking around half naked will always push that crazy button to make them want to rape. No one has the right to rape but that still isn’t going to stop rapist from raping women. Read this article “Rapist explain themselves and we should listen” (http://jezebel.com/5929544/rapists-explain-themselves-on-reddit-and-we-should-listen)

Kim Kardashian is another woman who is influencing younger girls and young women that it’s okay to carry themselves like sluts. She became rich and famous from a sex tape…..umm yeah okay. Every time you look around she’s posting pictures of herself naked and the thing is her social media pages are open so millions of young ladies are watching her every move. She’s giving them the perception that they can make a sex tape or become a sexual woman in the media and they can get rich too. She also gives off the impression that they should do whatever it takes to become rich and famous even if it means losing all self-respect for themselves.

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Young people of today have no choice but to have sex on the brain all the time because they have access to porn sites, sex is uploaded to social media and hell it’s on regular television stations! You can’t scroll on Instagram without seeing someone’s ass or should I say fake ass. If celebrities like the slut puppies in this article preach respect yourselves and your bodies maybe things can change but I don’t see that happening anytime soon especially when networks or giving sluts a platform on national television. A young women can graduate college at 17 become a brain surgeon and post her accomplishments on social media and get 3 likes but a young woman who dropped out at 17 became a stripper can post a video of her ass will get 20,000 likes! Likes on social media is what excites our young people not getting a college education and becoming a pillar of their community because that isn’t the cool thing to do anymore. Most people now would rather look like they are successful on social media rather than actually working hard to actually become successful. We are losing our young people and we are living in a modern day Sodom and Gomorrah.

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I Am Not My Hair!

India Arie said it best in 2006 when she made this hit song I AM NOT MY HAIR. Take a look at these lyrics…..

Little girl with the press and curl
Age eight I got a Jheri curl
Thirteen and I got a relaxer
I was a source of so much laughter
At fifteen when it all broke off
Eighteen and went all natural
February two thousand and two
I went on and did
What I had to do
Because it was time to change my life
To become the women that I am inside Ninety-seven dreadlocks all gone                 india-arie-that-grape-juice-she-is-diva
I looked in the mirror
For the first time and saw that

I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am a soul that lives within

Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be
You can shave it off
Like a South African beauty
Or get in on lock
Like Bob Marley
You can rock it straight
Like Oprah Winfrey
If its not what’s on your head
Its what’s underneath and say HEY….

Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend?
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?
I am expressing my creativity..

Breast Cancer and Chemotherapy
Took away her crown and glory
She promised God if she was to survive
She would enjoy everyday of her life ooh
On national television
Her diamond eyes are sparkling

Bald headed like a full moon shining                      India Arie-5
Singing out to the whole wide world like HEY…

If I wanna shave it close
Or if I wanna rock locks
That don’t take a bit away
From the soul that I got
If I wanna where it braided
All down my back
I don’t see what wrong with that

Ladies we are not our hair! Stop letting a man decide how you should wear your hair. If you want to wear your hair short, wear it short. If you want to wear it long, wear it long. If you want to wear weave, wear weave. If you want to color your hair, color it! You are not your hair and if a man tells you that he will leave you if you cut your hair then he never loved you in the first place. I think people have gotten the word submissive misconstrued just because the bible says wives be submissive to your husbands doesn’t mean that a husband is supposed to control his wife. It is a control issue when a man tells a woman how she can and can’t wear her hair. I think every woman has that moment when she feels she needs a change and one of the first things we want to change is our hair! download

No matter how you wear your hair make sure it’s clean, healthy and age appropriate! For the women who are rocking the natural look make sure you keep your ends trimmed and get regular conditioning treatments. Going natural doesn’t mean that you no longer have to maintain your hair because some of you are walking around looking a hot ass mess! Hair is meant to be combed so comb your damn hair!.

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Bold and Beautiful

 

 

 

Love Who You Are Because It’s Too Expensive Not To

I found this article on http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/29/beauty-industry-women_n_5127078.html and it is very interesting….

In America, the perennial quest for beauty is an expensive one.

Every year, women spend billions of dollars in exchange for beautiful hair, luxurious eyelashes, and smooth, silky skin. Still, many of our culture’s most common beauty procedures were virtually nonexistent a century ago. The truth is, many of our expectations of feminine beauty were shaped in large part by modern advertisers. We’ve tracked the history behind some of the most common “flaws” that besiege the modern woman and the surprising stories behind their “cures.”

Here are seven insecurities women have been fed by marketers:

1. “Your natural hair color isn’t pretty enough.”

“Does she or doesn’t she?” asked the Clairol’s ad that launched a million home hair dye jobs. Indeed, the aggressive Clairol marketing campaign would trigger an explosion in sales. In the process, the percentage of women dying their hair would skyrocket from 7 percent in 1950 to more than 40 percent in the ’70s.

The ads showed everyday women reaping the benefits of more lustrous hair, a luxury that had long been exclusive to glamorous supermodels with professional dye jobs. The ads proclaimed, “If I have only one life, let me live it as a blonde.” Indeed, Clairol peddled the perfect yellow shade of the dye as a way to transform your life:

Clairol hair dye offered self-reinvention, in 20 minutes flat, particularly for women who didn’t want to reveal their true age or their gray roots: Shirley Polykoff, the advertising writer behind Clairol’s goldmine ad campaign, described her plan as such: “For big success, we’d have to expand the market to gather in all those ladies who had become stoically resigned to [their gray hair]. This could only be accomplished by reawakening whatever dissatisfactions they may have had when they first spotted it.” Clairol did that with ads like, “How long has it been since your husband asked you out to dinner?” Nowadays, about 90 million women in the U.S. color their hair, according to a 2012 IBIS World Report.

2. “Your body hair is gross.”

Today, women in media are generally depicted sans body hair or mocked for daring to bare it. But surprisingly, from the 16th to the 19th century, most European and American women kept their body hair au naturel.

What changed? According to researcher Christine Hope, the answers lie in fashion and advertising. First, in 1915, came what Hope called an “assault on the underarm” — a burst of advertisements warning women that unsightly, unfeminine under-hair arm must be shaved to look “as smooth as the face.” Otherwise, no dancing for you:

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Next, came an explosion of ads encouraging women to shave their legs to look more attractive in sheer stockings and fashionable swimwear. By the end of World War II, shaving had become an expectation for American women. Ads in the ’60s and ’70s continued espousing the “unfeminine” nature of body hair.

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The bikini arrived on the fashion scene in 1946 and brought with it the next contested body hair territory: the bikini line. The Brazilian Wax was imported to the U.S. in the late ’80s and popularized by mainstream media in the ’90s.

Today, pubic hair removal is pretty much a staple amongst young American women: 80 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 34 remove at least some of it, and, according to research, many of them are motivated by the desire to conform to social norms or appear more feminine. Even now, hair-removal ads — like Veet’s recent “Don’t risk dudeness” campaign — target the same female-specific anxieties they did a century ago.

3. “Your skin is too dark.”

During the late-19th century and early-20th century, skin-lightening became increasingly popular among black women in America. Skin bleaching was seen as more than a beauty ritual — it was a symbolic way to progress in a prejudiced society, where lighter-skinned black people encountered comparatively better treatment. Advertisers exploited those prejudices in the beauty industry, promising women that they could “occupy higher positions socially and commercially, marry better, get along better” and be more beautiful with lighter skin. In this 1944 ad, lighter skin is equated with “lovelier” skin:

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The actual products were seriously dangerous: Most contained the chemical hydroquinone, which is also used to develop photographs. (The chemical has been banned in Australia, the EU, and Japan, but remains legal in the U.S.)

During the ’60s and ’70s, the skin-lightening market dipped in popularity as the “Black is Beautiful” movement grew. The movement encouraged black people to embrace their natural features, rather than attempt to conform to white beauty norms. Cosmetic companies quickly softened their rhetoric, and the phrase “skin lightening” was changed to the somewhat more innocuous term “skin brightening.” The smiling 1962 ad below promises bright, light skin even on the rainiest day while neglecting to mention the possible side effect of mercury poisoning:

 

Today, skin lightening continues to be practiced around the world, with particular popularity in Africa, India and Pakistan. The annual global market is expected to reach $10 billion by 2015, though many of the products still come with serious health risks.

4. “Actually, your skin is too light.”

In the early 20th century, sunbathing became a popular doctor’s prescription for many illnesses. The supposed health benefits, coupled with a major boom in advertising, created the widespread belief that, as Harper’s Bazaar surmised in 1929: “If you haven’t a tanned look about you, you aren’t part of the rage of the moment.”

Soon after that declaration, beauty companies began selling specialized suntan lotions. Some researchers believe that, because the tanning fad created a new cosmetic market, it also provided a market incentive for the tan to remain an enduring American beauty expectation. And endure it did: In the 1970s, new health concerns about the risks of cancer from sunbathing did not end the craving for a tan — they just created more opportunities for the beauty industry to market new products that could promise protection or fake a “natural” tan that would have every beach bum staring:

 

The medical world continues to warn of the dangers of overexposure to the sun. The quest for the perfect golden tan hasn’t faded away — many people just choose to fake the effect. Since 2000, the self-tanning product manufacturing has experienced meteoric growth that is expected to continue over the next 5 years.

5. “Your cellulite’s an eyesore. It must be banished.”

Until 1830, large women were generally considered more beautiful and fashionable and master painters lauded their curves, cellulite and all. Since the mid-twentieth century, however, the ideal female form has become increasingly slender. Over the same period of time, cellulite was introduced and demonized as a major public enemy of the ideal female body.

In 1968, Vogue Magazine seized on the term, decreeing that, “Like a swift migrating fish, the word cellulite has suddenly crossed the Atlantic.” Some members of the medical world scoffed at the sudden cellulite anxiety that ensued, calling it an “an invented disease.” Whatever you call it, cellulite affects between 80 and 90 percent of women, and “fighting” it, as well as mocking it, have become marketable American obsessions. Being a female celebrity with any cellulite on your body is practically considered criminal:

In 2014, cellulite remains an unconquerable enemy, and women continue to spend big bucks on products that are often inadequately tested and ineffective in the long-term.

6. “Your unmanicured nails are unsightly.”

Northam Warren began producing what was generally considered to be the first fingernail cuticle remover and nail polish in 1911. He also kicked off an advertising campaign that would spawn the modern nail polish industry. Ads cautioned women about the embarrassment of having un-manicured fingers. Business exploded from $150,000 in 1916 to $2 million by 1920. Having manicured nails became a way to display wealth and elegance, proving that you were above “lowly” manual labor. And if you thought you could hide those unmanicured hands, this 1923 ad had news for you:

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The sales pitch worked. In 1912, only a quarter of women used products on their hands or fingernails — by 1936, three-quarters of women did so. During World War II, Cutex nail polish even appealed to women’s national pride:

Today, nail polish — and the services that go along with it — have become beauty staples for women. As of 2012, Americans spent a record $768 million on the stuff.

7. “Your eyelashes aren’t long enough.”

Historically, women darkened their lashes with everything from elderberries to resin, but mascara products didn’t emerge until the twentieth century when T.L. Williams founded Maybelline. The brand’s popular 10-cent mascara swept the nation. While makeup had once been considered immoral by some, Hollywood actresses made it glamorous. Women were promised the sultry eyelashes of their favorite actresses, as in this advertisement from a 1929 “Motion Picture” magazine:

As more mascara products emerged, companies began making numerous claims about the lengthening and volumizing effects of their products. Major cosmetic companies have come under fire for misleading advertising methods, like using false eyelashes on models.

Even so, the quest for longer lashes has grown into a full-fledged beauty and pharmaceutical market. As Nancy LeWinter, editorial director of OneStopPlus.com, told The Huffington Post: “Five years ago, the lashes you had were the lashes you had and you threw mascara on. Today, you’re getting extensions, you’re using Latisse, we’ve got the whole area of obsession over eyelashes!” ‘Cause hey, your eyelashes could always use another millimeter or two, right?